Why do men disappear? Why does a man break off a love relationship? Why does a man end a long-term relationship?
The romance is in full swing, and suddenly... the admirer evaporates in an unknown direction. He stops calling, answering sms, turns off his mobile ... For you, he is now always busy and, if you suddenly crossed paths, he promises to call back, but this is just an on-duty phrase. You were given a turn from the gate. The most annoying thing is that it is not clear why. Let's deal with the psychologist Anatoly Ivlev.
If after the first meeting a man no longer shows interest in us, then we, as a rule, are not particularly upset, because the relationship has not yet developed ... Our partner’s departure as a result of a deteriorated relationship is quite predictable. But if it seems to you that you have complete harmony in your relationship, then such a “disappearance” turns into significant stress. Meanwhile, the reasons for such behavior of a man can be completely different, and in some cases, the tragedy of parting can be avoided.
So, for what reasons does a man tend to suddenly end a relationship at its peak?
1. He has another. It is not at all necessary that he is an inveterate womanizer, perhaps there is simply a woman whom he truly loves, but for some reason they cannot be together. Trying to build a relationship with you, a man sincerely hopes that he will be able to forget his former love ... but it does not work. Or he has a hope for reciprocity from his beloved, and naturally, you become uninteresting to him.
What to do? Before entering into a relationship, ask him about previous romances. If it becomes obvious that a man is not free from a previous relationship, it is worth talking frankly with him or even abandoning this romance so that it does not hurt later.
2. Your man is a professional "hunter" for the female sex. Novels are the meaning of his life. He beautifully looks after and achieves you, and when the goal is achieved, he looks for new prey. Such men are usually sure that they simply cannot find the right woman, but in fact they are just arranged that way.
What to do: if a man claims that, despite numerous searches, he still has not met the one, "the only one", this is a reason to be wary. Perhaps you should immediately set yourself up that the relationship will not last long.
3. A man is not ready for a serious relationship. Relationships are a responsibility, and a man is not sure if he wants to take it upon himself. After all, he will have to change his usual way of life, to reckon not only with his own, but also with your interests. Or he is not sure if you are the woman he needs.
What to do: while the relationship is still developing, do not show the man that he is now your property, do not talk about marriage and children, do not openly understand that you are in the mood for a serious romance. Just show the man that you are interested in him. And then let him decide.
4. You agree to sex too quickly.
Most men do not miss the opportunity to have sex, but not everyone will develop a relationship after that. Many men think that a woman who gets into bed easily is available. So, for a serious relationship, it is not suitable.
What to do? As much as you like a man, don't try to put him to bed after one or even several first dates! Go for it when the relationship gets stronger. If a man himself is persistent, think about it: maybe he only needs sex from you, and nothing more?
5. You scare a man away. It seems to you that you have met the man of your dreams, and you do not try to hide it from the man himself. You involuntarily inspire him with the idea that he is obliged to make you happy. And the man is not sure if he can meet your claims. Bob Grant, in How to Get a Man Back and Keep Him, writes: “It is possible that a man will make attempts to make a woman happy and will try very hard to become her “emotional donor”, no matter how hard it is for him. But sooner or later he will get tired ", or will not be able, or will refuse to guess the mysterious desires of his companion. The only way out of the current difficult situation for a man is to get out of the relationship."
What to do? "The greatest gift a woman can give to a man she likes is to take responsibility for her own happiness off his shoulders," says Bob Grant. - to become a woman from whom a beloved man does not want to leave anywhere, but will adore and cherish.
You meet a man and you feel that “that same spark” jumps between you. A few days of texting, and now you're on a date. Chemistry is strong. With the new contact of the two elements that you and your boyfriend are, the attraction can be very strong.
But after several meetings, something goes wrong. And this is something that puts you in a dead end. The man begins to ignore the messages, come up with reasons to delay the next date, becomes too busy, promises to call back, but never does, and then disappears altogether.
What happens afterthe man leaveswithout a reason
When the man leaves out of your life in this way, you are left alone with yourself - stunned, mentally crushed, having no idea why he does this. After all, everything was just great! And suddenly it's over.
You don't understand who's to blame. Perhaps he had intentions that you were not suited to fulfill. Or maybe it's in his "cockroaches in the head."
I will say this, if this is an isolated case, then maybe it’s just the same “cockroaches”. But if such situations happen more than once, you need to start looking for a reason in yourself,why do men lose interest to you.
Why does a man lose interest in a womanor what went wrong?
That is why this situation is incomprehensible to most women. When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can almost always determine the reason why this is happening. Perhaps he is not too bright with intelligence, closed, unsociable, or, on the contrary, too noisy and active. That is, she can specifically say what exactly she does not like about him.
For men, it's different. He can enjoy great dates with you. He may like sex with you. But at some point, discovering that your company is more unpleasant for him, the man leaves . And you are from such a situation.
And is there really no explanation for this?No. There is always a reason. Let's take a look at one of them. After several successful dates, many women, having made sure that they like a man, begin to fantasize about a joint future.
And what happens next? you make it up various options life together, imagine how he will behave. You think he's yours forever. In general, you become attached to your fantasies and gradually begin to impose them on him.
However, you don't see the problem. Instead of getting to know the real person, you start to build a relationship with a fictional copy of him, which often has nothing to do with the real person in front of you.
Most men intuitively feel when a girl gives too much great importance ordinary meeting or acquaintance. If expectations are placed on a man that he did not subscribe to, this, of course, causes a reaction of rejection.
You think he owes you something. And he really just wanted to have a good time, in the end he was looking for an unobtrusive relationship plus sex. He is clearly not ready for such a turn of events, when he almost needs to take you to church, and will naturally back down.
In this situation, it cannot be said that the man is just loses interest in womenbecause he has good reasons for it.
Why do women do it?
All women want to feel good, but often their actions lead to quite the opposite. This is because everyone needs confidence and is afraid of the unknown.
This fear is destructive. Moreover, a woman may not realize that he is. Few people manage to realize the existence of such a problem in time.
In the meantime, more and more growing anxiety is blocked by the desire to become happy, to quickly find a man who will not only give you love, but also become a universal tool for solving all your problems. At the same time, you forget that you also need to work on yourself, and not rely on the chosen one.
When you date a guy you feel good with, that need becomes overwhelming. You may not even realize that you are doing it. But the man feels the change in you.
And in the end, instead of feeling a sense of unity with you, he begins to understand that you want something from him. He doesn't know exactly what. But instinct does its job and gives a hint to a man - to leave right now, before it's too late and he is not up to his ears in duties that he does not need ..
Here is a more specific real life example: once a woman visited a women's training and she was told that she needed to make an album of her desires, hang it in a conspicuous place so that her husband could see. And then they will definitely come true. When my husband came home and saw the album, he packed his things and left. To the question "WHY?", she received the answer - "Sorry, dear, but I'm not the man who can give you everything you want." The man was simply frightened by the number of desires that she fantasized for herself.
Now imagine - it was a husband! What can we say about a man with whom you have only had a couple of dates? It is quite natural that, frightened of all those desires, the fulfillment of which you so long for, a man leaves your life. I'm not saying that a man cannot realize them. I am talking about the fact that you do not need to shift your problems, questions and expectations to him. If he wants to, he will decide. But putting a man in a state - you owe me - is the first step towards parting in a relationship.
This usually happens at a time when a woman is trying to think about what needs to be done to make your future relationship work out in the best way. And yet there is no relationship.
An analogy can be drawn here. Imagine that someone approaches you and tries to sell something unnecessary and useless. Even if the person who approached is smiling and seems friendly, subconsciously you still want to leave, because you know that you were approached for a reason. They want money from you, not help.
The same is felt by a man who is just trying to get to know the interlocutor opposite, but already feels that they want something from him.
Can't force love
When you get into a new relationship and start to think it's more than just a relationship, it's game over. And while you are thinking about what happened and why a man is losing interest in you, it will be too late.
This does not mean that in this situation the man is right and the woman is wrong.
The best relationships are those that form naturally. Relationships can give you what you dream of. But you don't need to make them an end in itself.
This is the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy or dysfunctional one. A healthy relationship is when two people are happy, when everything is mutual, comfortable, when you give something, but you also get quite a lot in return.
Unhealthy relationships - when one of the partners or even both believe that the other should give them something or he has something that could be received from him, some kind of benefit.
So how do you solve this problem? If you stop focusing on the result and just enjoy life, then the man will also feel good next to you.
When he understands that you feel good, that everything is fine with you, he will want to be near you. But when you start demanding something from him that you don’t actually have the right to, this leads to the fact that the man leaves. And yes, it really is that simple.
Of course, this is not the only reason why a man leaves and loses interest in a woman, but certainly one of the most common. There may still be a banal incompatibility, but this is a completely different conversation that we can start if you decide to go on the Way of a Woman.
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They do not carefully consider a farewell conversation, but suddenly disappear.
For example, after the N-th number of years of marriage, they go out for cigarettes - and do not return. Or one “beautiful” day they silently pack a suitcase and only at the exit, before closing the door behind them, they sparingly throw: “I’m leaving you!” Or (with regard to premarital relationships) they disappear from the field of constant attention: they stop calling, writing, do not answer calls and avoid meeting in every possible way. And only after a while they send SMS like "Don't call me again."
Of course, not every man “evaporates” like this. However, such behavior during parting is not so uncommon.
From a female point of view, it is regarded as cowardice and definitely not a male act. Although in fact it is a typically masculine way to end a relationship. Typical for male nature. After all, a man is initially brought up with an eye to success. And not only in the field of career achievements, social status and making money.
He must remain at his best in relations with a woman. Take care of her, provide her with everything she needs and make sure that she is happy with him.
And this state of female happiness for a man is another proof of his masculinity. As well as his absence is not just minor misunderstandings, a crisis in relationships, but evidence of male failure. Personal failure, collapse and blow to self-confidence.
Therefore, for some time a man tries not to attach much importance to the troubles in life together and not even talk about it. For admitting their presence is the same as admitting one's failure. And men are somehow not taught to discuss their emotional state. On the contrary, they declare restraint, equanimity and calmness at any cost.
Here they are silent. So far, there are obviously more “pluses” in the relationship. But as soon as the "cons" outweighed everything and everything, and the last drop fell into the inner vessel overflowing with disappointment ...
It is much easier for those who are not bound by a stamp in their passport. They can resolve the situation as quickly and sharply as possible. That is, they simply disappear, so as not to exaggerate and not to stretch the experience of personal failure. And then they easily switch to new connections.
For those who are held back by an established way of life, children, obligations, etc., such care is more difficult.
Although they have already psychologically put an end to the relationship, they continue to play the role of a spouse imperturbably.
At this time, it will even be more convenient for them if a woman understands the futility of living together and decides to part herself. After all, becoming the initiator of a divorce means adding a sense of guilt fueled by public condemnation to the feeling of personal failure. And so, a man has the opportunity to unconsciously shift the blame for a broken marriage to a woman.
However, if the wife also supports the game of marriage (or simply does not realize how bad everything is), and it is already unbearable to endure, the man leaves. For a woman - all of a sudden. For myself, no.
And he also tries to do it according to the principle of a band-aid: quickly and sharply. Without exacerbating your pain and guilt with lengthy explanations and conversations on the topic “Is there any way to fix everything?” After all, women tend to “manipulate” parting in order to make a man move and work on relationships. The man has long decided everything for himself and leaves really, and not for show.
That is why you should not even stop him and persuade him to start all over again. If he stays, it's only out of pity. It's better, no matter how hard it is, to just let go.
It is likely that outside of a life together, a man will feel even worse and want to return. And whether to accept it or agree to a complete break is up to the woman herself.
VELVET: Olga Igumenshcheva
Familiar situation: everything went fine, we met several times; flowers, movies, courtship. Then he disappeared, does not answer calls, does not call himself. Why?
In this article, you will find 5 main reasons for the breakup.
So, let's start in order.
1. He achieved his goal
He talked about your sexuality, admired your figure. I thought your jokes were witty. Romantic feelings arose between you, sexual attraction, and you succumbed to it. And so, he got what he was going for, and now he has disappeared. Then why romantic? Could you just offer to sleep? I will answer: it is possible. But in this case, there is a chance that the girl will refuse. The main goal young man had sex.
You think that you were good together, and you enjoyed it. Did the man get what the game was played for? Most likely not, his expectations were not justified. Then why create romance again, waste time and money on an object that does not meet sexual needs? While you live in anticipation of a call, he is already tying the next relationship.
2. You are not up to his level.
There is a phrase: "You're my darling!" - "Darling, because you value me, or because I cost you dearly?"
This modern joke has its share of jokes.
Think about it, calling his chosen one "dear", a man puts a price on her in the market of interpersonal relationships.
Each of us demonstrates only the best of his qualities, which include the ability to speak, and appearance, and the ability to earn money. In response to the demonstration, the partner wants to receive the same maximum qualities from you.
There are situations when a demonstration by a girl went for 5, and the guy pulls only for 3. The girl is not interested in him. Her need is a man with qualities of 10. But between the price of 5 points there are intermediate girls who cost both 6 and 9. And the one with 5 does not yet reach 10. Realizing this, she becomes a long line of competitors . However, the market is the market. There is a supply, so there is a demand. And, having got a man with 10 personal points, the girl herself will now call, write. A man dear to you accepts courtship, but does not seek to develop relationships. This is because you fall short of its competitive price in the relationship market. He doesn't value you. Then do you want to consider it dear to you?
3. No interest
The psyche of a woman is arranged in such a way that she constantly thinks about the object of her adoration, moreover, in bright colors: he is about to call her and offer to go to the cinema. Or, today they will have a romantic candlelight dinner with a sequel. But there is still no call and no offers for today, however, as well as for the next couple of days, they are not received. He preferred to spend the evening with friends playing football, or continue working in the office on the project of his life.
The essence of this behavior is as follows: he puts his hobbies, work above you. You are not relevant in his list of hobbies. That's why he disappeared from sight, always answers - he is busy, there is no free time. Everything is much more banal - a man does not want you, you are not interested in him.
4. You scare him away yourself
We live in the 21st century, where they freely talk about sex, about same-sex marriage from the screens. Then why do many girls act out of themselves as inaccessible special ones, dreaming of a serious relationship, of marriage, are embarrassed at the word "sex", although they themselves already have experience. How can a man understand how interesting he is to her, and what is she like in a bed relationship? Or do you naively believe that behind the mask of "inaccessibility" a man should see your passion?
Of course, if you have a pickup artist in front of you, he will not be embarrassed by your impregnability, he will only provoke him on the way to achieving the goal. When in front of you is a normal young man, lively and active, his interest will fade away. No, I do not incline to debauchery, but you should not close yourself either. Maintain the golden mean, otherwise you will be left alone. Your unavailability is more intimidating than encouraging. As a result, he will go to the one that was friendly and sociable, although not the most attractive. Change your attitude towards a man!
5. You make a lot of claims
It's no secret that men's and female logic exists.
What does a girl expect from a relationship that has just begun? Beautiful courtship, tenderness, warmth, boundless love. Despite the fact that he is obligatory: a wealthy businessman involved in sports, with a great sense of humor, making constant expensive gifts (flowers do not count, they should be constantly). And all this festive bouquet must necessarily end with a wedding and the birth of children. Kind of a fairy tale.
In men, everything is more banal and more prosaic: she is sexy, open, accessible, independent, does not cause unnecessary trouble with romance. The most important thing for men is sex.
And now the situation is: with the expectation of a promising future, you make claims to him that there is not enough fairy tale in a relationship. And then you also deprive the main pleasure, referring to a headache - it disappears. This is natural.
These are just the main reasons identified by our own experience. No one counted how many more, but I know for sure: if you adequately accept what is written and understand yourself. Ask a question: what do I do in such cases? you can get a lot useful information from your answers.
Having started dating a guy, getting married, we are sure that we have finally met our soul mate. We expect to live with our beloved man happily ever after, giving each other joy. We are convinced that the husband will show tenderness, attention, care and will carry it in his arms. We are sure that we gave our hearts to the most beautiful prince in the universe.
However, time passes, and the fairy prince turns into a wet amphibian creature. We, against our will, found ourselves in a gloomy sobering-up center, feel pain, disappointment, hopelessness. We feel sorry for the fact that with good intentions we ourselves paved the road to hell. It is disgusting that they gave their heart to be torn to pieces by a soulless selfish tyrant. It is a pity the time spent in the hope of change, and the energy wasted in vain. It is scary to realize that the sun is unlikely to rise in our family firmament. We understand that there is only one way out of the impasse - this is to end the relationship with the guy. How to end a failed love affair that causes suffering will be discussed further.
How to break up with a guy: the pitfalls of the moment of separation
Ending a romance between a man and a woman is never easy. The decision to separate emotionally exhausts both partners. Before you put an end to it and say goodbye forever, you need to weigh all the pros and cons. Only after serious reflection and a sober assessment can we reach the final verdict that it is necessary to end the relationship. To make the right decision, which we will not regret later, we must discard emotions and maintain a clear mind.
Indeed, often the desire to leave arises as an affective outbreak: in a fit of rage and anger, at the moment of a showdown. Hints to a man about ending a relationship is not always a true cry from the heart. Ideas that we need to end a relationship can arise in our heads when we are very tired after an exhausting working week. Thoughts about the need for a new life may be the result of banal dissatisfaction in other areas of life. For example, when a promotion up the career ladder was covered with copper basins, we begin to look for a scapegoat. And the best candidate for this role is our husband. The "necessity" of breaking up with a man may reflect the existing tension due to the eternal lack of money. And again, we make the spouse the culprit of need.
When we reflect on a shared past, we often hang unfair labels on a person. We forget that just about a former boyfriend was most recently the most expensive, respected and beloved person. Therefore, when we decide to end the relationship, we should not blame the man for all worldly sins. It is necessary to give an impartial and honest assessment of what is happening.
To make the right decision, our heart must be free from resentment and hatred. Even if there was a terrible and bloodthirsty vampire next to us, we should not become a cruel and vindictive barbarian. We must remember that decisiveness and ruthlessness are two different things. Therefore, having decided to break off relations, it is not necessary to humiliate and insult the dignity of another person, even if he is an alcoholic and a parasite. We have the right to condemn his actions, but not to destroy his personality.
Often the difficulty in making a decision lies in the fact that, despite the suffering that a man causes, we continue to love him. Despite the heartache and burning resentment, we remain hopeful that everything will come to its senses and get better. We deceive ourselves and flatter our hopes. After the next flight, we give the guy one more chance to fix it. We do our best to knock the nonsense out of his head: we persuade, explain, cry, threaten. However, years fly by, and everything changes only for the worse. Instead of settling down, the husband begins to drink even more often, work even less, trail more skirts. It is necessary to stop flattering yourself with hopes, gather your thoughts and put an end to the relationship.
Very often it is not possible to end a relationship with a man once and for all, because we are confused and do not understand what exactly we want. We are like paper boats sailing in the same direction on the ocean of life. We have no prospect that the wind will change, and we will see a different landscape from the round windows. In such a situation, we urgently need to drop anchor so that the ship moored on a deserted island, where we can sort out our inner world without interference. We must clearly define what our global goal in life is. Think about what resources are needed to achieve it. Think about who a partner is for us: a stimulus for achievements or a brake on undertakings.
Sometimes, to understand that the decision to end a relationship is the result of a sudden insanity or the result of a distorted perception of reality, you just need to talk to your husband. We must muster up the courage and organize a frank conversation with a partner. In a quiet and calm environment, we must explain to the man that the current relationship does not bring joy and satisfaction. It must be remembered that many spouses are unhappy in marriage only because they do not discuss emerging problems in a timely manner, preferring to remain silent when something bothers them. Lack of openness and trust inevitably leads to a breakdown in relationships.
Without reproaching and without indulging in accusations, we need to point out to the man specific aspects that do not suit, annoy, hurt. It is necessary to tell the guy that we respect his desire to be independent and independent, but we also have personal needs and dreams. We should firmly state our opinions, desires, plans. Briefly describe your experiences. Talk about what hurts. Explain why some actions are unacceptable for us. We must be prepared for the fact that a man will express his claims. However, to prevent a scandal is in our power.
During the dialogue, we need to unobtrusively and politely suggest ways to correct the situation. Moreover, such options should be a compromise. It is necessary that they include both the wishes and the real possibilities of both spouses. This approach gives a man the right to choose. The boyfriend can either agree to the change and do something new, or refuse the offer, thus agreeing to end the relationship. However, such a constructive dialogue is possible only between those spouses who know how to control emotions and are ready to hear the opponent's point of view without hysterics. It is impossible to talk heart to heart with proud and selfish tyrants.
There is the most dangerous and skillfully disguised pitfall in the depths of the waters, which does not allow you to decide to end your relationship with a man. They are the accustomed role of the victim. Often, women continue to tolerate a partner whom they not only do not like, but also hate. However, they voluntarily agree to the continuation of humiliation, insults, bullying. They have chosen for themselves the role of an uncomplaining victim and are not able to understand why they are in such a powerless position. In such a situation, young ladies are not able to end their relationship with a tyrant on their own, since they need professional help from a psychologist or psychotherapist.
What guys should end a relationship with: signs of male danger
How do you know if you really need to end a relationship? We must look at our lives from the outside and find the "harmful elements" that do not allow us to be happy in marriage. Moreover, such aspects should be a real problem that cannot be eliminated. What reasons are good reasons for expelling a husband from own life? Psychologists believe that one should definitely end the relationship with a man whose character traits and behavior meet the following criteria.
The most dangerous sign indicating that it is necessary to end the relationship and run away is a demonstration of physical strength on the part of a man. We must remember that if a person even once raised his hand to a weaker person, in the future he can cause serious harm health and life.
How to end a relationship: time to act
So, the choice is made, and the decision to end the relationship is made. What do we need to do to end an affair that hurts? We follow the steps below.
Before the final conversation with a partner, you do not need to inform even the closest friends and beloved relatives about the decision to leave. Our sincere confession can be deliberately or unconsciously distorted. Confessions made to friends can reach the boyfriend in the form of rumors distorted beyond recognition. Then it will be very difficult to set up a husband for a constructive dialogue.
We must choose the appropriate time and place to talk to our husband. It will be wrong and humiliating for a man if we announce the decision to say goodbye in the presence of strangers. We must respect the boyfriend, so we should not shock him with the news if he has some important event or a responsible task ahead of him. Territories that were previously favorite places of dates will not be suitable for the final meeting. It will be very difficult for a man to adequately perceive the news of a breakup if we meet him in a cozy cafe where we met.
On our part, it will be a demonstration of obvious disrespect for the partner if he finds out that we were going to break off the relationship from a phone call. No less strange and unpleasant will be the sent message with the text: "I'm gone forever." The height of indecency is to put a man before a fact by writing to him in in social networks. Thus, we will consolidate a negative opinion about our person in a man.
We inform the husband that we have firmly decided to break off the relationship. We do not arrange a soap opera, but briefly explain the reasons. We say that our verdict is final and not subject to appeal. It is impossible to allow a man to influence with his persuasion decision. We don't let sweet words and false promises confuse us. We do not mumble, we speak clearly and calmly. We don't beat around the bush. We do not create false hopes with the former partner.
We must be prepared for the fact that our news will follow backlash person. If a guy is trying to drag us into a showdown, we should ignore and stop such attempts. If he begins to reproach us for all the Greeks, we should not blame him in return. Debriefing deprives composure, introduces doubts about the correctness of the decision, makes us sentimental and delays the moment of farewell. A man, being confused, can get angry and begin to show aggression. If he starts screaming, we don't need to yell back. We continue to state our arguments in an even, calm voice.
What to do after telling your husband about the decision to end the relationship? Logically, the next step is to stop living together. If a man lived in our apartment, we must stipulate the time frame for him to leave it. We should not act impulsively, exposing a boyfriend with a suitcase over the threshold. It is necessary to allow the guy to collect personal belongings on his own.
In order to free your legal territory from a sticky man who does not want to end the relationship, you need to demonstrate to him every moment that he is superfluous in this apartment. We can offer a talkative mother, always sticking her nose into other people's business, to stay with us for a couple of months. It is in our power to invite friends to visit each evening, who will discuss aloud the dubious merits and obvious shortcomings of the ex-husband. We can rent out two of the three rooms in the apartment to novice pop stars who enthusiastically perform masterpieces of rock music hated by a man around the clock. 
If it is not possible to voluntarily expel the annoying gentleman, you can use the principle: they knock out a wedge with a wedge. We start flirting openly with other guys. We start on our territory a young, energetic, self-confident person. It is unlikely that the ex-husband will like to be in the place where a new love affair is spinning before his eyes.
How to expel an ex-partner if he does not want to voluntarily leave our own housing? The easiest option is to pick up the moment when the man will be absent for several hours and change all the locks on the front door. In this case, we will have to pack his belongings ourselves. We should inform relatives and joint friends about what is happening in advance. After we have collected the things of the ex-husband, we ask his relatives to pick up the bags and boxes, or we take them to the man’s new residence.
Much harder topics ladies who live in the apartment of the spouse. Before you tell the missus about the breakup, you need to think in advance where to go. Having decided to end the relationship, a woman should clearly know where she will spend the near future. Here it is necessary to consider various options and choose one that is both convenient and appropriate for financial capabilities, and that saves you from meeting with your former betrothed. If a woman does not have her own housing, she can live in her parents' house, rent an apartment or rent a room, stay for a while in a hostel, demand that the enterprise help her with solving the housing problem. The main thing: to take the last decisive step, you need to take care of the roof over your head in advance.
In the case of a formal union, when both partners have agreed to divorce, you need to contact the registry office and write the appropriate statements. If the other spouse objects to the dissolution of the marriage, it remains for us to hire a lawyer and go to court. The most difficult thing is to solve the housing issue, when the real estate is the joint property of both spouses, or when the apartment is taken on credit. In such a situation, legal advice is indispensable.
Another issue that arises after parting with her husband is the division of property. Despite the fact that, according to the law, all property acquired over the years of living together must be divided in half, some men believe that they are the sole owners of all equipment and furniture. What to do in such a situation? There are three options. The first is to negotiate in a good way and come to a common denominator. The second is, again, to share the acquired belongings with the help of the courts. The third is to step on your throat and leave all the junk to your ex-husband.
Sometimes it happens that ex-boyfriend begins to threaten and create trouble. To protect personal interests, we need to collect evidence of his lawlessness. All sound threats must be recorded on a voice recorder. All impudent encroachments should be recorded on camera. There is no need to be afraid of the police: if a man pursues and threatens, we need to involve representatives of law enforcement agencies to calm him down. As witnesses, we can call friends or neighbors.
There is no need to be afraid of the threats of the ex-spouse, even if he is a titled boxer or has strong connections. It must be remembered that for every animal there is a hunter. There is always a person who can tame an annoying and stubborn guy. We can talk to his friend, who has authority, and ask him to calm down the annoying boyfriend. Notify his parents, who will reason with their importunate son with their weight. Ask for help from the boss who reports to the former spouse. Find a protector in the person of a stronger and more influential colleague, friend, classmate. If verbal measures do not bring the desired results, and the ex-husband continues to persecute, the best way out is to sell the apartment and move to another city without informing mutual acquaintances about his new place of residence.
Advice to all ladies who have made the decision to break off a relationship: do not try to remain friends with former partner. An attempt to transfer a love affair into the status of friendship immediately after the end of a life together is doomed to failure. It is best after the breakup of marital relations for some time to limit contact with ex-husband. After some time, when the pain of a failed marriage subsides, you can try to resume communication as friends. We must be respectful of the other person's feelings and consider that they may need more time to regain their peace of mind after a breakup.
To put an end to a love affair, we need to learn how to enjoy a new life. For the first time after the end of a relationship, it is advisable not to visit places that remind you of past moments of happiness. We need to make positive changes in our lives: expand our social circle, try ourselves in a new role, show our abilities in previously unknown areas. The main thing is not to look back and not live in the past. We must rejoice at what we have here and now, and confidently pave the way to a happy future.