Should my child be vaccinated: a complete guide to vaccination. Is it necessary to help children with homework Is it necessary to do homework by a child

Like there's something wrong with that! After all, being able to delegate work to someone who can do it better is no less important than the manifestation of other leadership qualities and is certainly more useful than trying to do everything yourself (which many have to be treated for already in adulthood) But, jokes aside (although not very - then I was joking!) and let's try to figure it out seriously - is it necessary to help our children with all these dogs made of spruce cones, plasticine cows, match houses and a New Year's wall newspaper.

The answer is simple and unequivocal - yes. It is always necessary to help children, because this is the most important component of a trusting relationship.

Not even so that your child could someday take your hand and look into your eyes and say “We need to have a serious talk” (no, this does not always happen and not at all necessary), but in order for the child to grow up “like behind a stone wall", bold and confident, oddly enough, in himself - he must be confident in his adults. So yes, yes and yes, definitely help. How exactly is another matter.

So, let's say your child was asked to make a craft and bring it to kindergarten. What should parents do? I'm talking point by point!

Be happy, or at least pretend to be happy. With your whining and curses of a stupid kindergarten with their stupid assignments, you only show the child not the most correct view of the world - “the world is terrible, the kindergarten is idiotic, the teachers are goats, the assignments are bad.” Even if you really think so (and even if it really is so) - the child is still too small to look at the world through your eyes.

Let's assume the idea that his childhood will be a little happier, he will grow up a little more cheerful person with a little more joyful attitude.

You should not immediately pour your adult problems (a fly in the ointment) into his childish head (pure honey) - you remember that this way honey only deteriorates.

If you want to be honest with your child in everything and are not going to lie to him in your own emotions, at least do it cheerfully - laugh like an old pirate, stamp your feet - “Oh, this is damn Kindergarten, break his thunder! Where can I find spruce cones in the center of Moscow? And why were you, cabin boy, silent until 9 pm, lame octopus in your pantyhose!”

Your cheerful mood is already support! Show that the task that has appeared is not a problem, but an adventure is a valuable installation for the rest of your life

(Have you noticed that for some, even the most difficult tasks are an exciting challenge, and for some, an elementary task like “throw away the trash” is a reason for a heavy sigh?)

You can go collect cones together, or send the child alone (at night, into the forest?). You can start calling your friends - “Good night, do you sleep? Excuse me, do you happen to have any fir cones?” Or you can find another solution (together with your child!) by showing by your own example that even in a hopeless situation (and this is it), you can always come up with something (let it be not spruce cones, but wine corks!) And this there will be the best help - you were there, you set a cheerful and cheerful mood, you did not give in to the problem. You can stop at this and go about your business, leaving the child alone with cones, a brush and glue. Your next step will be admiring the work done and rubbing the glue (smash it with thunder!) from children's hands, sofa and parquet.

To be frank, I am against parents doing all the housework, no matter how useless and even harmful it may seem to them.

Of course, this is cool to save time - every mother knows that she can make a Snow Maiden in 5 minutes, while for a child it can take several hours and three liters of tears (and your drunk blood), but still it’s better to the children themselves coped with the task, and the task of the parents is to make this activity as exciting as possible. Sit down and start sculpting too (but not the Snow Maiden, but Santa Claus, or Alien, or Benedict Cumberbatch, or whatever you can do), sing songs, read poetry, arrange a competition, broadcast live on instagram. If you have a husband, sit him down too (this is useful for strengthening family ties and let him suffer too, don’t you suffer alone?)

Seriously, every hemorrhoid idea can be turned into a holiday, there would be a desire!

Or, for example, such a sore subject. They ask your little one to make Russian tanks, or learn a song about the Kerch bridge, or draw an icon. And you are a fierce pacifist, an atheist, and go to all Navalny's rallies. And so you come home, quite stunned, listen to the task, and first pour into the children’s ears of the child about what kind of gardens are “goofy”, the country is “damned”, and the educators are damn Stalinists (break their thunder!), And then you say that you You will not do this and you will not allow your child. Further, such an unexpected development of the situation is possible that the baby will burst into tears, and the next day, when everyone will show off their tanks, and yours has nothing to show, he will say at all - “You are not my mother anymore, I don’t want to be friends with you”

. It seemed to you that you were protecting your precious baby from a harmful ideology, but it turns out that you only offended the unfortunate child, because he also wanted a tank (and that his tank was the best and won the competition).

No, look, there's social media for bile pouring out, and your kid's ears are the worst place to fight the system. No, he will not become a muddle if he learns a song about the Kerch bridge at the age of 5 and does not go to kill if he blinds a tank. The learned text of a stupid song will strengthen your memory, just like the magnificent fairy tales of Pushkin, and modeling a tank will develop fine motor skills no worse than modeling a parrot. Your child has not yet invested anything in these activities, and even if you are afraid that it will be forcibly "invested" in the kindergarten - just try to remember - do you remember a lot of insanity from your kindergarten? (I'm not talking about rudeness and unacceptable behavior of educators, but about ideological things). Be patient at least until school, and even better, do not send the child to the municipal kindergarten, where collisions with the system are inevitable. And if you already gave it away - go sculpt a tank and sing louder!

However, sometimes, in order not to do it damn homework with bumps, tanks and sparkles, you can squat down, look your baby in the eyes and confidently say -

“Listen, baby. We need to have a serious talk! It is now 9 pm, my mother is terribly tired. We don’t have any fir cones, and there are no wine corks either (they are somewhere, but I don’t remember where, I don’t have the strength to look for them, let's pretend that they are not there?). Tomorrow morning we will warn the teacher that we didn’t have time to do the task, but we’ll do it later ... ”- and this will also be your support, because you will divide the defeat into two, but don’t swear then!

And if you and your child are really real pirates, then you can offer him to “get sick” and not go to the garden and work at all! This will not be approved by your mother, your boss and the head of the kindergarten. Your husband won’t approve of this (I mean, didn’t go to kindergarten?), Psychologists won’t approve of it (half of the advice here was harmful, but that’s all!), My editor won’t even approve of it (sorry!)

But listen to the old pirate - no, you are not setting a bad example, and no, no, no, your child will not grow up to be an irresponsible oaf who becomes a surgeon and then pretends to be sick so as not to have an operation and someone dies! Not!

But even when he grows up, and, perhaps, becomes a surgeon, he will remember these moments, how in childhood he skipped kindergarten with his mother, he will smile and his heart will become warm. And isn't that the most important thing?

To answer the age-old question - to help with the lessons or let the child try on his own, we asked Irina Trushina, Associate Professor of the Department of Psychology and Vice-Rector for Work with Youth of Chelyabinsk state university, and Victoria Nagornaya, teacher of Russian language and literature with 20 years of experience.

Victoria Nagornaya: “Mommy, you are two”

- My opinion is tough: in the primary grades, especially in the first, the child needs to be helped with the lessons. After all, marks are not yet put, and here it is no longer about fulfilling the given task, but about the formation of skills. Skills not only to study, but also to organize your day, fold a portfolio, fill out a diary. All the colleagues I know are raising their schoolchildren according to this principle.

In higher school, not to mention 5th grade and beyond, I'm against babysitting. Of course, you can't refuse to help. We all remember from our childhood how dads solved problems for us, in their own way, not as we were taught, but the answer was correct. And mothers checked the essays and always found errors and typos in them. Nothing has changed: the exact sciences have only become much more complicated, and children who are accustomed to computers have practically forgotten how to invent themselves interesting phrases and write without errors: the computer will correct. Therefore, if the daughter asks: “Mom, explain, I don’t understand,” I always go to the rescue. If not, she does her homework.

In the first grade, it is recommended to supervise the child. A photo: / Eduard Kudryavitsky

I advise you to convey one thought to the child. Now studying is your job. You don't work for me, why should I? Let a dependent student first sleep through the first lesson, then get a few twos, then come to class without a diary and a form for physical education. Having stuffed cones, he will learn everything that is required on his own. Initially, you can control, manage from afar and imperceptibly: for example, warn the class teacher about innovations in your family.

Parents sometimes find it difficult to cope with the tasks of their children. Photo: / Nadezhda Uvarova

In my pedagogical practice, situations when parents do not just sit next to the child, but completely do the lessons for him, alas, are not uncommon. But this is a disservice. Once, a fifth-grader of my colleague, a biology teacher, passed such an abstruse essay that he read excerpts aloud to us, and we did not understand what was being said. The parent, obviously a doctor of biological sciences, decided to shock everyone with his erudition, and gave out such knowledge about the inhabitants of the ocean that they clearly do not correspond to a ten or eleven-year-old mind. Moreover, the abstract was not copied from the Internet. He is smart, not smart. The colleague was of the old rules, thought and wrote on the title page: "Mom, you are two."

Many do not believe that a child will do his homework himself if he is thrown, like a fry, on a long voyage. It will, for sure. Don't raise drones. There is, apparently, some stage, having gone through which, together with his mother doing homework, the student no longer wants to go further without his mother. Practice shows that wealth and family education have nothing to do with it. Mothers study for such children both at institutes and help at work. Is this what we want for our children? I'm sure everyone will say no. Let your child first have three, but his, well-deserved.

As the leader said, "less is better, but better." I am a teacher, but I think that not everyone has to be excellent students. The main thing for a child is the inner core, the desire to achieve something, adaptability to circumstances and independence.

Irina Trushina: "We need a situation of success"

Every parent asks this question. The answer depends primarily on the level of psychological and physical readiness of the child for school. The first grade is the time when the child adapts to new conditions, the system of interaction with adults and peers, and other rules for organizing their activities. For this adjustment to be successful, the help of a parent or significant adult may be essential. Help to plan your time, rationally distribute tasks and rest, learn to alternate doing homework in different subjects so that switching from one to another gives you the opportunity to relax - it is very important, especially during the first year of schooling. Parents need to be able to find a middle ground between the two extremes: taking responsibility for doing homework, preparing for quizzes and exams, folding a portfolio, and cleaning up a desk even when the child is ready for this responsibility. Or complete non-interference in the affairs of the child. In the first case, there is a high risk that, having matured, the child will remain a “child”, an infantile person who does not know how to take responsibility, make decisions and make a deliberate choice. In the second, if he has enough of his own internal resources, such independence will help him become stronger and mature quickly, or vice versa - grow insecure, unable to ask for help.

High school students have to learn their homework by themselves. A photo:

If the skill for independent mastering of information has not been developed in due time - in elementary school, then parents have to "sit down for lessons" with a seventh and ninth grader. The problem of unwillingness to learn independently in adolescence can arise not only because of the lack of self-discipline and self-control skills, but also because of a violation of motivation. This may be due to a number of reasons: for example, the relationship with the teacher did not work out, or the child does not see the prospects for applying knowledge in this discipline. In this case, it is important for parents to refrain from lectures, scandals, as this can only cause resistance and additional tension. It is best to focus your efforts on creating a “success situation” for specific disciplines or learning activities in general.

1. When a person sees that the results of his activity are valuable for the people around him and significant to him, the child feels the “taste of success”, the motivation for its implementation increases (it can be a victory in a competition, calculations for the implementation of a project, etc. ).

2. Inclusion in a group of peers who are significant for a teenager, among whom it is fashionable to study independently, can solve the problem. Sometimes this requires a transfer to another class or even another school.

3. Forming a perspective: for example, getting to know a profession during an exciting excursion to an enterprise will allow a teenager to see the possible outcome of his educational activities, and if this prospect is attractive, the child will be interested in systematizing the way to achieve this perspective, and therefore, systematizing independent activity.

Vaccines were originally invented to prevent epidemics. However, as the example of smallpox in England (the city of Leicester) at the beginning of the 20th century showed, when people began to refuse vaccinations and the epidemic hit again, the number of cases among unvaccinated people was extremely low. It turned out that most people with a normal level of natural immunity are immune to this disease. This experience showed that voluntary immunization, i.e. improved nutrition, hygiene, etc., brought much more benefits than vaccination, and without side effects. What is attributed to vaccination is often associated with improving the quality of life of people and, as a result, strengthening their natural immunity.

At present, general vaccination is conditioned by the illusion of a life without diseases. They try to convince people that you can live as you want, not take care of your health, drink alcohol, smoke, have promiscuous sex, and so on, and at the same time stay healthy by getting vaccinated and drinking a pill. This is a very strong, vicious delusion! If a person does not strengthen his immunity, then the vaccine often remains powerless, and what is the surprise of parents that vaccinated children suffer from the diseases against which they were vaccinated. After all, no one hides that vaccination does not provide 100% protection. However, they hide that the vaccine undermines the fragile immunity of the child.

In fairness, it should be said that there are cases when the risk of harm to health from a vaccine is lower than from a disease. Therefore, you need to consciously and sensibly weigh your decisions. Today we will talk specifically about vaccinations for children, since there are some nuances here.

Do children need to be vaccinated?

"Do children need to be vaccinated?" - the answer to this question requires clarification, since it is impossible to take and indiscriminately recommend that absolutely everyone should be vaccinated or not. It is necessary to understand in what conditions this or that child lives, what age he is, what lifestyle his parents lead and, accordingly, he, moreover, it is important how he was born and how he was born, how his mother ate before and during pregnancy , has been or is being breastfed and for how long and how much more.

If you still try to answer the question posed (do children need to be vaccinated), then healthy children whose parents lead a healthy lifestyle, do not drink alcohol, drugs, do not smoke, live in a normal area, and even more so in a village or outside the city, children regularly harden, eat right, whose relatives do not suffer from tuberculosis, vaccinations, of course, are useless.

The fact is that children from dysfunctional families are at risk. Here we mean not material wealth as such, but the environment and conditions in which the child is kept.

To decide for themselves whether or not to vaccinate their child, parents must weigh the benefits and harms of vaccination. For example, it is extremely unfavorable for newborn children to be vaccinated in the first days of life, since the body has not yet had time to adapt to new conditions. And for the immunity of the baby, this is an incredible stress, because immunity from vaccination, on the contrary, is undermined. In addition, parents should be aware that vaccinations such as BCG and DPT have strong side effects, and in most developed countries they have refused to administer these vaccines to everyone in a row, since they do more harm than good. Doctors in our country have not hidden for a long time that these vaccinations often cause complications.

Let's take a look at what some vaccines are designed to protect against, which will hopefully help you weigh the risks of currently getting these viruses and make the right vaccination decision.

BCG- Tuberculosis vaccine. The site dedicated to this disease says: “Russian tuberculosis is a social phenomenon, the roots of which lie in the low level of quality of life of people. Tuberculosis cases are more often recorded in places of deprivation of liberty. The following are the factors contributing to the emergence of tuberculosis:

• malnutrition;
• the presence of chronic diseases - pathologies of the pulmonary system, stomach ulcers, diabetes, etc.;
• alcoholism, smoking;
• addiction;
• unfavorable living environment.

And at the very end, the authors of the site make a very sensible conclusion: "The main way to overcome tuberculosis is to promote a healthy lifestyle." If you look at the statistics of the incidence of tuberculosis in Russia, you will find an inverse relationship between the level of quality of life and the number of patients. Note that now the level of quality of life is growing. So, what is the likelihood that a newborn who is kept in good home conditions will get TB? Here everyone must give an answer based on their situation.

DTP- vaccination against tetanus, whooping cough, diphtheria. As we said above, it can have strong side effects. In addition to the substances that make up its composition, too much pressure on the immune system causes harm, which in the days after vaccination weakens the immune system so much that the child becomes vulnerable to other infectious diseases. And yet, let's consider what is the probability of a child getting sick in the first months of life with these diseases.

Tetanus bacillus can enter the body through injured epithelial tissues (skin, mucous) from the ground, rusty tools, nails, animal bites. In order for tetanus to be activated, oxygen must not enter the wound, that is, it must be a fairly deep wound. At the same time, a tetanus vaccine can be given separately if necessary, that is, in the event of a serious injury, and not just like that, just in case. At the same time, homeopathic doctors claim that it is possible to cope homeopathic remedies without resorting to such radical methods as vaccination.

Whooping cough It is transmitted by airborne droplets through direct contact with a carrier of the virus. After an illness, a natural stable immunity is formed for life. The effect of vaccination is short-term and requires revaccination. In addition, the vaccine does not guarantee complete protection against the disease. Previously, they brought their children to those who fell ill with whooping cough in order to get sick, as they do now with chickenpox, for example.

Hepatitis B. In addition to BCG, at the birth of a child, a hepatitis B vaccine is given in the maternity hospital. It should be noted that this vaccine is genetically modified, which means that no one knows for sure what effect it will have on the body in the future, however, like any GMO products. It should be noted that the hepatitis B virus is transmitted with the blood, saliva, urine, semen and other body fluids of the carrier of the virus. Infection occurs when the biological fluids of an infected person directly enter the bloodstream of a healthy person, if he does not have immunity to hepatitis B. This can occur in case of injury and the introduction of the virus there, in case of sexual contact with an infected person or when using an unsterilized syringe. It turns out that the risk of getting this virus increases significantly with the introduction of vaccination. Attention, the question: “Why should a newborn get this vaccine?” The most interesting thing is that even an infected mother cannot transmit this virus to him, provided that the placenta is intact and the delivery is normal. In England, for example, this vaccine is given only if the parents are carriers of the disease.

We will not consider all the vaccinations included in the vaccination calendar, there are too many of them, but I strongly recommend that you study each one if you are not sure of your decision.

The right to refuse vaccinations

Every citizen Russian Federation has the right to refuse vaccinations for himself and his children. According to Art. 5 of Law No. 157-FZ of September 17, 1998 “On Immunoprophylaxis of Infectious Diseases”, anyone has the right to refuse vaccinations, also Art. 11 of this law states that vaccinations for minors are carried out only with the consent of the parents. It should be borne in mind that the lack of preventive vaccinations entails:

• prohibition for citizens to travel to countries where stay in accordance with international health regulations or international treaties of the Russian Federation requires specific preventive vaccinations;
• temporary refusal to admit citizens to educational organizations and health-improving institutions in the event of mass infectious diseases or the threat of epidemics;
• refusal to hire citizens for work or removal of citizens from work, the performance of which is associated with a high risk of contracting infectious diseases.

The list of works, the performance of which is associated with a high risk of contracting infectious diseases and requires mandatory preventive vaccinations, is established by the federal executive body authorized by the Government of the Russian Federation.

Refusal of vaccinations is issued on a form that must be issued at the clinic or educational institution. If the form is not issued for some reason, parents must write an application on their own. Appendix to the Order of the Ministry of Health and Social Development of Russia dated January 26, 2009 No. 19n recommended a sample form for refusing to vaccinate a child: “Voluntary informed consent to preventive vaccinations for children or refusing them.” Since this form is only recommended, parents have the right to draw up an application in any form, in which they should indicate:

• Full name of the parent, it is also recommended to indicate the date of birth, place of residence.
• Name and date of birth of the child.
• The full name of the vaccination (or list of vaccinations) that is being refused.
• Links to legislation are welcome.
• Be sure to indicate that the decision to refuse is considered.
• Date and signature.

There are enough examples of vaccination refusal statements on the Internet, you can use them.

Difficulties that can be encountered in case of refusal of vaccinations

The year is 2018, which means that a whole generation has already grown up without vaccinations, so in many regions of our country, social workers have become accustomed to refusing vaccinations and often no longer respond. At the same time, children calmly attend kindergartens and schools. However, sometimes there are some difficulties.

For example, if a child is not vaccinated against tuberculosis, and he did not have a Mantoux test, when entering a kindergarten or school, they often require a certificate from a tuberculosis specialist. Until recently, people actively wrote refusals to visit a phthisiatrician, as he required a Mantoux test or an X-ray, which is extremely undesirable for a child. The fact is that among the components in the Mantoux test there are harmful substances, such as estrogen, which has a negative effect on the human hormonal system, and phenol, a toxic substance, an overdose of which can disrupt the functioning of the heart, kidneys, reproductive system and leads to immune suppression. What puts this procedure on a par with vaccination. In this case, the indicators are often false positive in healthy people. According to the legislation, children under 14 years of age can be prescribed X-rays only in extreme cases. But at the moment the situation has changed, and new modern accurate alternative methods of tuberculin diagnostics have appeared, one of which, perhaps, makes sense to go through so as not to waste time and effort on statements, refusals, prosecutors and so on.

• PCR - polymerase chain reaction. For analysis, physiological secretions of a person can be taken: mucus, sputum, ejaculate, and even cerebrospinal fluid. The accuracy of the test is 100%. True, the test does not distinguish between dead tuberculosis DNA and living ones, therefore, in a person who has just recovered from tuberculosis, the test may show a false positive result.
• quantiferon test. Venous blood is used for analysis. Accuracy - 99%.
• T-SPOT is an analogue of the quantiferon test. Recommended for HIV-infected and those who have severely reduced immunity. Safe for pregnant women and babies. Accuracy - up to 98%.

It should be noted that the accuracy of the test for the Mantoux reaction is up to 70%, this method in modern world considered obsolete. The only negative side of the above alternative methods is their high cost.

In addition, there are situations when parents are threatened that they will not accept a child to a kindergarten or school without vaccinations, sometimes they really refuse to admit them and suspend them from classes. In this case, you need to contact the prosecutor's office, these actions on the part of the leadership of children's institutions are illegal, if this is not a temporary suspension associated with the epidemic.

Whatever decision you make, remember that the most important thing about vaccinations is immunity! And it is laid long before the birth of the child, and also depends on how soon the umbilical cord was cut at birth, whether the mother is breastfeeding the child and how she feeds herself. In the first years of life, while the child is eating breast milk, he is under double protection, his and his mother's immunity, therefore, under normal conditions, children rarely get sick in these years and recover quickly. Also, do not forget to harden your children from the first days of life, go to the bathhouse with them and pour cold water on them!

Remember, the best alternative to vaccination is a healthy lifestyle!

Most of the vaccinations the child receives according to the vaccination schedule during the first year of life. These are vaccinations against hepatitis B, epidemic (mumps), and.

It turns out that the child receives 10 or even more vaccinations, since they need to be done several times. Therefore, there is a big load on the immune system, which, like all other systems, the baby has not yet matured enough.

How necessary is it then?

I think that, for example, the vaccine against tuberculosis is better done in the maternity hospital, if the parents are not categorically against it. This is necessary because the epidemiological situation for tuberculosis in Russia is unfavorable.

And the vaccination can be done during the first two months without examination, then, if the child has not received it, an examination will be required (Mantoux test). And only then, with a negative Mantoux test, a vaccination is given. This is again an additional burden on the child.

As for the rest of the vaccinations, you need to look at the risk of diseases and side effects, which can always be. You also need to remember that every vaccine contains a preservative, that is, a toxic substance. Usually these are mercury salts or formaldehyde. The toxic effect is determined by body weight: the lower the weight of the child, the more toxic the effect of the vaccine.

What vaccines are used for vaccinations?

Vaccines are "live" and "killed". "Live" vaccines are weakened pathogens that, when ingested, cause the development of an immune response, due to which there is a strong immunity to this pathogen.

“Killed” vaccines differ from live ones in that they no longer contain live pathogens. In this case, only their antigens act, to which the body also develops immunity.

I must say that "live" vaccines are generally contraindicated in many diseases, and, in my opinion, it is generally better not to do them. One example of a "live" vaccine is the vaccine against, which is dropped into the mouth in the form of droplets. According to the new standards, it should not be applied.

Up to a year, a child receives at least 10 vaccinations, which load his immature immune system.

Should I be vaccinated strictly according to the vaccination schedule?

I believe that if a child is born healthy, lives in prosperous family, does not go to kindergarten yet, does not play in the sandbox, it is probably worth waiting up to a year with vaccination. By this time, the child will grow up, the immune system will mature, some contraindications may appear, and after that you need to resolve the issue with your pediatrician individually.

About . The risk of hepatitis B infection in a small healthy child is minimal, so it is not advisable to give such a vaccine in the maternity hospital right away.

If after birth it becomes clear that the child will have some kind of surgery or hospitalization due to his condition, or there may be patients or carriers of the hepatitis B virus in the environment of the child, then it is better to start vaccinating immediately according to the plan in the maternity hospital.

Many parents are still afraid to do it. How does the doctor act in this case?

When people come to me with questions about vaccinations, I always encourage parents to not be afraid. Fear for the child or fear of vaccination on a spiritual level envelops the child like a cloud and overwhelmingly affects the immune system.

Any fear is a kind of shock, stress, and this weakens our immune system, thereby increasing the risk of disease.

If you are so afraid of this disease, get vaccinated and don't be afraid. If you are afraid of complications from vaccination, it is better not to do it, but do not worry. It will be more useful. It is important to find a balance here so as not to be afraid to let go of fear.

But parents always worry about the health of their child. Isn't it okay?

If we consider the disease as some kind of evil or misfortune, then indeed - you were vaccinated, and you protected yourself from the disease and you will never get sick with it. But illness should not be taken as a necessary evil.

Childhood illnesses are a certain test for the child's body, a certain step on the way to growing up and development. Passing through the crisis of childhood illness, the child overcomes, burns out that negative hereditary material that hinders his development. This is the deep meaning of childhood diseases.

Each disease, on the one hand, carries a certain harm and risk, but, on the other hand, a certain benefit.

When we bear the disease and get better, especially if we use drugs that help the body cope with the disease itself, we become somewhat stronger. And the next time, faced with a problem, our body is no longer so helpless.

Childhood diseases can be called a test for the child's body, a kind of step towards growing up.

Why are parents generally afraid to get vaccinated? Are they really that dangerous?

Vaccines, like any medical intervention, can have side effects. This is an antigenic effect on the immune system, and a toxic effect of the preservative on the body.

I think it is necessary to assess the risk of a disease and the risk of a side effect of a vaccine for a particular child at a particular age, and, based on the epidemiological situation around the child and these risks, decide on the issue of vaccination.

On the net, you can often find “horror stories” that children die after vaccination. Is it true that vaccination can lead to such consequences?

Any vaccination can cause complications. And the problem here is not the vaccine, but the tolerance of the body. The vaccine may well be the impetus for the development of some serious disease.

How can you protect your child from this?

For this, antihistamines are used. This is the usual symptomatic therapy so that a local reaction to the vaccine does not develop. I use homeopathic medicines to reduce the risk of these complications.

It is never known how a child will tolerate vaccination. At the appointment, I usually advise which homeopathic medicines to take before and which ones after.

Vaccinations can only be given with the written consent of the parents.

Can vaccinations be given without parental consent?

Parents always have the last word. The doctor, for his part, must explain to them all the risks and diseases, and side effects. Therefore, it cannot be said for sure that vaccinations are an absolute evil or, conversely, they are an absolute health benefit.

I believe that in this case, parents always need to resolve the issue with their pediatrician on an individual basis.

Firstly, the child may have certain contraindications to certain vaccinations, each person has a different level of health, the risks of certain diseases or complications are also different.

In addition, there are parents who are afraid or categorically do not want to be vaccinated due to their beliefs. In our clinic, as a pediatrician, I advise parents on such issues, drawing up an individual vaccination plan.

It's the holiday season. What vaccinations should be done before?

If parents go to countries where there is a risk of exotic diseases, to which we do not even have genetic immunity, then vaccines must be made. Some countries in Africa do not even allow without them beyond their borders.

If the child is traveling with parents who go to a particular country for work and plan to live there, then it is also advisable to get the vaccinations recommended for that country.

In Russia, we now have a fairly favorable situation in terms of infections compared to other countries. In Asia, there is a lot of polio, it occurs. And because of the flow of refugees in Europe, there is a lot of measles. If people are going there with children, it is better to vaccinate.

And how pedagogical, “psychological” and, in principle, it is right to do homework with the child or in general ...

At night I was finishing the next text, went to bed at four.

Dasha comes in the morning.

- Mom, I didn’t have time to do solfeggio, can you do it for me?

At that moment, I agreed to anything, so long as I was not turned over.

- I'll do it. I'll take Grisha to the pipe, while I'm waiting for him, I'll do it.

I studied music for a long time and 2 years. The maximum that I can now is to play with one hand a simple melody in two octaves (first and second). The bass key is already beyond. Well, what am I - I can’t figure out the solfeggio of the 2nd grade of a music school? Yes bullshit!

So without getting enough sleep, on wadded legs, I take Grisha from school and bring him to the music room.

I look at the assignment, open the workbook. 7 exercises on one page, three on another and one more on the third. The eyes are afraid, the head is cracking, and the hands are doing. Go!

Well, it's easy to designate stable steps of the C major scale. D major, G major, F major? - More difficult, of course, but doable. On the unsteady steps of B-flat major, I was already tense.

On the task "circle with a blue pencil the steps of major scales, between which a semitone is formed," she coughed and reached into her textbook.

At the stage of transposing melodies from F major to G major and from C major to B flat major, the head teacher of the music school sat down with me.

- Let me help you!

- A nothing that I'm doing a task for a child?

- Well, then you explain everything to him.

- Uh, uncomfortable somehow. I feel like I've been caught at the scene of a crime.

- Nothing, nothing, now everything will be done quickly!

Got it done in a few minutes. And then Grisha was released.

I met him quite alive, cheered up and pleased with myself.

But! We must face the truth: the task was really trifling.

I remember that recently I did interval exercises for Dasha (turn large seconds into small ones, put sharps where necessary so that all thirds become large, build down from the sounds TO, RE, MI intervals: m.2, b.2, m.3 and b.3).

That's where the brain really was. And then what? Trifle.

Here the question arisesand how pedagogical, “psychological” and, in principle, it is right to do homework with the child or even for him?

Official answer: not properly.

Studying at school and homework as an essential part of it - it is the child's responsibility.

This is not such an easy, but completely feasible “job” for him, therefore, ideally, he should cope with it himself (having, of course, the opportunity to ask for help if something is not clear or difficult).

And if he can’t cope, if he doesn’t know how to correctly distribute his strength and time, let him go to school with unlearned lessons, earn his legitimate deuces there, blush, get upset, draw conclusions and correct.

The point here is thatSchooling is the responsibility of the child, not the parents.. It is important.

The more responsibility and control the parent takes on here, the less of them the child has, who loses his own motivation, energy and self-respect.

And the more parents try to make their child learn better, the less chance he has of this.

As well as the chances to learn to manage yourself, your life, be responsible for the results of your activities, set your own goals and achieve them.

However, in life, as always, not everything is so straightforward and unambiguous.

The requirements of the modern school curriculum are serious.

There is also life outside of school (all kinds of circles / sections that really pull).

And in general - in a good way - there should still be time for walks, games, books, cartoons and doing nothing.

As a result, our poor 7-8-9-10-once summer child loaded to the top.

He would, perhaps, be happy only to learn to play the guitar. But at the music school they load him with rather sickly solfeggio, musical literature and a choir, which you have to not only go to, but also do assignments.

It's great if our child has a high motivation, craving for knowledge, inner composure and a strong nervous system, but if not?

So do you need an adult next to a child doing homework? I believe yes - if we are talking about the first two (three) years elementary school and at least the first year of secondary school (that is, about the 5th grade, when the classroom system appears, many new subjects, and most importantly, teachers with their different and sometimes conflicting requirements).

The fact is that without an adult, it is difficult for a child at first (!) to organize his work, keep track of time and manage his schedule.

He needs someone next to him who will serve as a guide and reliable support in this new little man activities.

Who will notice achievements, encourage and feed faith in his own strength.

We remember L.S. Vygotsky and his law of "zone of proximal development": At every age, a child has a certain range of things that he can do on his own. And another circle - more - of those things that he himself is not able to perform - only with the help of an adult.

As the child develops, the circle of his independent affairs increases due to those that were previously performed together with an adult.

Simply put, tomorrow the child will do by himself what he did today with his mother (whoever) and precisely because his mother HELPED him.

But! A helping adult is present in the life of a schoolchild not to hang over him like a sharp-sighted critical eagle or solve problems for him , but to explain the incomprehensible, ask the right questions, plan the work, help start it, and then check and praise.

As the child learns new skills, the adult gradually steps back, “let go of the reins” (the main thing is not to miss this moment when it is time to slowly move away and let go), freeing the child space for independent development and allowing him to experience joy and pride from the fact that he himself does a lot, that he is able, capable, successful.

And after everything so beautifully written, you ask me - how is it that I do solfeggio assignments for my 10-year-old daughter? You still don’t know what I do for her and do mathematics when she draws still lifes at the art lyceum for 5 hours on Mondays.

Life is like a river.The river does not always have regular, clearly defined banks. Sometimes it spreads, spills, sometimes tightly squeezes between rough rocks.

What I want to say: the ability to prioritize, to be flexible and act according to circumstances, not to create a prison for yourself from rigid, once and for all accepted rules, sometimes go over the banks, and then return to them again, while remaining in line with your own values ​​and attitudes , - this is not bad and it helps a lot in life.

I think that the child needs to be supported. Not to take responsibility for his studies, not to control every letter, no, but to secure where he is about to run out of resources, and he will begin to collapse like a fence - in failure.

Failure, like physical fatigue, tends to accumulate and wonderfully poison existence.

Accumulating fatigue and accumulating failure are dangerous because the child can overstrain, lose faith in own forces and, as a result, will hate studying and lose interest and motivation for learning.

So: look at your child, his abilities and capabilities, in no case compare with other children and do not reproach for mistakes, let him develop where he is interested, support his independence, do not impose your ideas about success, be the one a stone wall, on which you can always lean on and, if necessary, ask for help.

And then everything will be fine!published . If you have any questions on this topic, ask them to specialists and readers of our project .

Irina Chesnova

P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet